HOW YOUR BUSINESS CAN IMPROVE YOUR PARENTING SKILLS
Why do we strive for so much success in America today? Is it so we can live that life we dreamed of as youth? Is it to give our children that life we never had with our own parents? What’s your reason for either wanting to achieve success (however you define it) or wanting to pursue greater success in your career or in your finances? Is this drive for yourself alone or is it for your family/ children?
As a MOMpreneur, I have experienced many successes in business both personally and financially. With all of the successes we’ve experienced in life, how many of us have shared that success with others, particularly with our children, if you’re a parent. How have we imparted our career knowledge and success to our children in a way other than monetarily? Okay! Enough of the questions already.
Okay last one. Have you ever felt guilty about being successful in your business but not as successful in your personal relationships with your children?
One morning I was in my office, in my home anxiously waiting for a conference call that I had paid to be a part. I was feeling so excited because that particular morning the experts on the call were discussing a topic I was very interested in learning about, yes I’m a bit of a book worm. So, my emotions were running high and I was ALL EXCITED ABOUT WHAT I WAS GONNA LEARN on this morning and how it was going to take my business to next level!
Little did I know that in the other part of my home on this same morning was my 13-year-old daughter who had been secretly preparing a special breakfast that she was SO EXCITED about and wanted to surprise me with at the same time I was preparing for my conference call. My conference call was beginning and everyone on it was sharing their greetings and where they were calling from and just as they were about to introduce the main speaker, I had my paper and pen ready to take lots of notes…when I heard a little knock at my office door. Listening so intently the introduction of the speaker, I must have ignored the knock. I was sitting at my desk listening to the speaker begin to share this valuable information that I wanted to hear when again there was a little knock at my door. This time my attention turns towards the door and I see my daughter peek through a little opening, she gets my attention and with a big proud looking smile on her face she says “good morning mom.” I replied in a whisper “good morning sweetie.” So, I’m waiting for her to close the door so that I could go back to my conference call, listening to the speaker but instead, she said “mom I need you to go back to your bedroom.” I said, “right now” with a slightly irritated voice. She said “YES,” I have a surprise for you and it’s in my hands right now, she continued, “I don’t want you to see it, so I need you to get up and go to your room now.”
At that moment, everything in me wanted to say, sweetie give me about 30 minutes and I will be right there as I wanted to remain on the conference call which had just begun. So again, I tried to put her off for a few more minutes and again, she said “MOM, reallyyou have to go to your room now.”
So now, I’m feeling myself getting really frustrated, not necessarily with her, but with the terrible timing of the situation and with the struggle that was brewing within me (wanting to push her away so that I could satisfy my need for knowledge to advance my business). I was caught between deciding who I was going to give my time and attention to at that moment. I could have ignored her, put her off for a while, neglected her needs by tending to my own personal and professional desire or I could have suspended my agenda (which I knew in the back of my mind the call was being recorded anyway).
I felt as if I was having an internal crisis, my desire for the pursuit of success vs my devotion to my child. After all, why was I pursuing career success if not for my family; to be able to have more resources and spend more quality time with my children. Right?
Back to my internal struggle: pursuit of success was saying, “what harm would it be to tell her “not right now” and to close the door so I could get back to my meeting,” but devotion to my child was saying, “what if she really needs me,” what message would I be sending her if I choose business (which could be replayed) at a moment with her that could not be relived?”
I popped out of my chair and said “ok, I’m going to my room, as you request.” She was hiding something behind her back and said, now pretend that you are in bed and just waking up. I played along with her and followed her request. Once in bed, she presented me with a beautiful breakfast she had been preparing with fruit, bagels and even coffee, with a note that read, “Thanks for taking care of us and for being the best mom in the world.”
At this moment in my life. I had experienced the best lesson any parent could learn, and I was indeed successful in life.
The business practices we use to operate in excellence, respect, and with high standards are transferrable skills that could and should be taught to our children. Of course, there are moments in business that also cannot be replayed and are critical for the vitally of your financial growth but sharing what we value at work can be communicate to our children so that they feel that they too are a part of the success experienced. What business skills can you transfer to your kids? Time management, knowing how to prioritize in order of importance, building relationships that matter and others can be applied both at work and at home as a parent.
Dr. Sabrina Watsonis the founder of Leadership Education and Development Academy LLC, an organization dedicated to helping entrepreneurs,
educators and students and to grow personally and professionally through our proprietary and strategic processes. Dr. Watson strives to empower entrepreneurs and youth leaders by providing educational training and other enriching opportunities that promote improved performance for professionals and positive development for youth. She works with educators, youth leaders, and parents to support them in their role of helping young people reach their full potential. As a former public-school teacher, she not only has extensive knowledge of evidence-based practices that support positive youth development, she also draws from her years of in-depth research and her discovery of the integral role that important non-parental adults play in the support anddevelopment of youth living in high-risk, adverse conditions.
Dr. Watson has earned her Bachelor of Science degree in psychology, her Masters degree in early childhood education and her doctorate in Human Services, specializing in Family Studies and Intervention Strategies. For more information on steps you or your organization can take to help the youth in your community, contact Dr. Watson at www.DrSabrinaWatson.com, or call her office at 1-800-559-8680 or email her at info@LEADA.company